Only In Your Underwear

I LOVE underwear and always plan on being the girl with the lovely matching pants and bra sets and every so often I have a massive cull leaving only the pretties and none of the scuzzy chewing gum grey pants that are bloody comfy but frankly have seen better days and frankly sometimes in this working, cash strapped, busy girls life I sometimes just want comfort and cheap so Asda with their colourful Penelope Pitstop Pants at 3 for a fiver and Marks 3 packs of High Leg pants come in.

But this post isn't about that oh no!  This is about the fripperies I would allow myself is cash were no object!

I looked at trusty Marks and Spencer, home of my first bra.  Unfortunately at a E cup I looked at their DD+ Bras and was a bit disapointed but I thought this was pretty, but a boo goes out as the back stops at a 38 and the knickers at a 20.  But I do like it as it is chic, simple and sexy but come on Marks just cos your fat doesn't mean you want boring undies.

Again this one is pretty and going up to a 42 back is great but again big thumbs down as the knickers stop at a 20.  So on that note I stopped looking on Marks's and why they can kiss my round pound goodbye.

I said this was about money being no object but if you can live within your budget Asda is good.  I knowit isn't sexy but I think it does some lovely sets and goes up a bit bigger than Marks' and is pocket friendly as unfortunately for most people I know money is an issue on some level.  This Bra is fun, youthful, only £4.00 goes up to a 42 G and has matching knickers that go up to a 24 at £2.50 or 3 for 6!  I have got a couple of Asda bras the first I bought was appalling but I tried again a few years later and was pleasantly surprised.   Also Asad have a wonderful pair of Wonderwoman pants they are not a set so I won't put them on but if your a fan there here.

Now to the more expensive I have loved Curvy Kate for a while and they were so lovely in their bra fittings at Plus London that they remain a fave.  Their every day boost bra remains on my every day lust list and I will get it one day.  But making my heart sing and my wallet itch right now is the Starlet Frost set in Boysenberry.  Bit sad for larger fats that the knickers stop at a 20 and althought the bra does go to a J cup this is only for up to a 30 back whilst my size which is a 36 E is Curvy Kate Bras goes up to GG.  But I can forgive that for this glorious colour, the smooth but sexy lines and the retro style high waisted briefs.

Finally I think Simply Be have got some absolute stunning sets in at the moment.  I am loving the opulent full on glamour of the Anna Scholtz collection and this Vintage Rose one is beautiful, I bought the Pink bra and high waisted knickers from the Summer collection and I loved how it was packaged when it came but I would size down in the pants as I bought my usual 22 bottom as I didn't want a stretched pattern but they were frankly a bit big.  However I am hoping at some point this beauty will be in my wardrobe.

It comes with the matching Kimono and I dare The Hub to make a Keith Lemon crack at me, I swear it will be citizens divorce time, as the swishy silkyness and the print will make me feel like the sensuous type who could take lovers if she liked and drinks pink champagne for breakfast.  Oh my rich fantasy life.

Finally I bought this number the fun, flirty and cute Audrey Bra I love the Gingham print and that it makes me feel like a retro beauty queen.  At £24.00 for the bra it wasn't cheap in my book but I kept going back to it and looking at it which must mean I love it.  I would post a pic but I am unsure of how my work would take to me posing in pants online but I am wearing it as i type and I can confirm it has good support, feels sexy and nice.  My Hub said Wow which he explained was a good Wow, so all in all a winner.

OOTD - Is there anything more beautiful than a beautiful, beautiful flamingo

I have lusted after this dress for a long long time since Summer and at times it looked like it would never be mine, there were problems with the fabric the inital fabric it was made with had a flaw in it so the maker had to send the fabric back, then postage problems, fit problems and now here finally here it is.  A big fat thanks to Gem at Uncommon Nonsense for her patience.

Uncommon Nonsense is a Alice in Wonderland inspired independent company that makes fabulous frocks at really reasonable prices if you haven't checked them out do they are wonderful original frocks that can be bespoke made as Gem knows not all bodies are the same and the customer service is second to none.  All the dresses come with cute collars and many of the materials have a nod to Alice in Wonderland which is perfect for me as it was one of my favourite books as a child.

So here it is in all it's glory and despite my bitch face I am really happy with this dress and it fits like a dream.

I kept it simple teaming  it with a Black cardie I would have liked to have teamed it with my denim jacket but unfortunately this was in Kent.  Black bodysenor tights from Marks and Top Shop shoes and for the eagle eyed I have a Janine Basil bow in my hair.

Dress - Uncommon Nonsense

Cardigan - George at Asda

Tights - Marks and Spencer

Shoes - Top shop (old, but they sell the same or very similar)

Hair band - Janine Basil

My Lovely Dad - Mesothelioma Awareness Day

I don't usually do these kinds of posts but I touched on Mesothelioma, which is a type of Cancer caused by exposure to asbestos a while ago when my Dad's came back.  Recently I was contacted by Heather who has suffered from Mesothelioma if I would do a post on my blog today as it is Mesothelioma awareness day.

Unfortunately for my Dad, despite 5 years following successful radical surgery of being cancer free but probably not living in those 5 years the type of life he would have liked to live, he died 4 months after the return of his cancer.  Leaving me devastated, raw, an emotional mess who made too many decisions too quickly and a void in my family.

The thing with Mesothelioma is you only get it through exposure to asbestos, my Dad was exposed to asbestos at 15 when he worked in the Bristol shipyard as an apprentice Ships Carpenter and they had a rush job where he had to rip out the ships lagging which was asbestos and it is my belief that everyone who worked on that job died of the disease.  So after 50 years of the spores lying dormant it materialised.

So why am I writing this?  I suppose to raise awareness during and after my Dad's illness I have met a lot of people who work or have worked labouring and many have done cash in hand jobs removing asbestos and I know that it was used in houses until the 70's so people may have it in them or their sheds and if you do please pay the extra and get it removed properly and check that it is still intact as I believe it can become unstable and leak spores.

I don't have many pictures of my Dad on my computer but I do have one of me and him on my wedding day, it is fitting as my Dad was a peacock who loved clothes and he was the one who came to chose my wedding dress not my Mum as she hates shopping.  So I will finish this post with a the picture of me and him, I am thankful for all the years I had with my Dad and the relationship we had I am just greedy and would have liked more and that is why I am writing this post to raise awareness of asbestos and Mesothelioma.

You can find out a lot more about Mesothelioma here and more about Heather here

Yours Clothing - Swansea Opening

A confession apart from the £1.00 dress I have never shopped in Yours I have no idea why I just haven't!  I have seen a lot opening first Llanelli when I was living in Wales, then Ashford now I am back in Kent and I have still never been as I worked on the opening days then sort of forgot as they are not places I go shopping.

Anyhow I am visiting Swansea as I am sort of between here and Kent at the moment and I got a e mail to say a new store was opening on the 25th so it seemed rude not to go.

What can I say I liked it as apart from Evans in the Quadrant there is no other plus size stores in Swansea and New Look took the Inspire range from in the store in Swansea centre, so apart from Primark and Boots I didn't venture much into Swansea itself.

My apologies I didn't take any pictures of the store itself but if your local or visiting it is in the main shopping area of Oxford Street on the opposite corner to Top Shop.  The ladies in the shop were fabulously helpful and it was jam packed with pretty clothes with some good functional pieces like jeans and vests tops at good prices, I felt like the price point was a bit lower than Simply Be who I have used and do use.

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These ladies were super helpful the lovely girl in the the purple top took pictures for me in the changing room, sought out jeans for me, offered to get different sizes and implored me to buy a dress that I am afraid I didn't as I felt I needed more functional clothes.  Whilst the other lovely lady pointed me in the direction of the sale downstairs and who can resist a sale.

First I tried a lovely lace dress which had in my mind a slight Gatsby vibe to it, this is the dress the sales assistant thought I needed to buy and which I might at a later date.

I also tried a very floaty pink dress on that reminded me of summers days, it was very pretty and girly but maybe not quite me.

Then I tried some Jeans which were a good fit but a little long, a vest top which was a lovely fit and nice and long and a Kimono top that I liked but me and Kimono's have a bit of a love hate since the first time I wore one when the hub said I looked like a cross between a art teacher and Keith Lemon cheers for that love!

Finally I tried on a very snuggly warm purple cardie which I did buy again The Hub is not a fan but I really don't care as it is warm and I love the colour.

In all i was impressed with my first visit and felt there was quite a wide range of clothes and I used my £5.00 discount on some vests and the a purple playsuit (I didn't get a pic as I rushed down to the Sale whilst Mum queued) that caused controversy when Betty Pamper dared to wear it with bare legs and the trolls came out to play which I think I can rock this winter with the purple cardie, tights and biker boots.  Whilst my Mum treated me using her £5.00 off voucher to the Purple Cardie.

Some final words from the changing room wall on how the morning made me feel, I found this to be a warm welcoming store which will give plus size ladies more choice in Swansea.

Crumbs At The Table?

As a fashion loving self confessed fattie lately I have been wondering in the feast that is fashion am I being left with a crumbs at the table that I am meant to be oh so grateful for!  As after all I couldn't possibly a woman who has allowed herself to pork out (I believe is one charming expression) have the audacity to believe I deserve the same choices as everyone who isn't in my fat club.
For example I was pretty excited when I heard Voodoo vixen was launching a Plus Size Range, but when I looked online at it, yeah the cardies were nice but the dresses left me cold.   No fitted, shorter than knee length, peekabo necklines these were all mid calf, not flared and if I am frank I felt they looked Mumsy.

Meanwhile in the main range, they get these:

And it is great that there are more retailers doing Plus Size but I feel it is limited and although I have looked at Voodoo vixen in this post there are other retailers like H and M all doing the same offering slivers and crumbs that they expect me to go ooohhhhhh thanks I can wear clothes.

Also I feel gradually with the rise of the internet although we have more choice, the opportunities for clothes shopping as a day out or a social experience are really limited.  Oxford Street itself only has Evans and Simply Be.  Whilst most of the High Street Stores like New Look try to get my round pound over the internet or at the back of their store like I am a dirty secret.

I don't have the answers I just want to be able to go shopping with any of my friends whether they are fat, thin or inbetween and shop in the same shops with the same choices and not skulk away on the internet to find my clothes is that so much to bloody ask?

OOTD - Sweet Saturdays

Soooooo I am aware it has been a while since I posted on my little bloggy, but I have been a busy Twee moving back from Wales, which hasn't been smooth sailing but perhaps more of that another time.

So today I have a rare Saturday off where I can indulge myself and see friends who work normalish hours.  So off I went to see my dear friend Maxi Moo for a cuppa and a snack at a new cafe in Deal where I live.  It was a nice morning so my pictures are quite smiley a departure from my usual bitch face.

Yesterday I dyed my hair a pastel pink over a pale blue so it is kinda pale pinky lilac which reminds me of sweeties, so I decided there was only one print for it my Vampire Bunnies Junk food dress.

I did wear this dress to Plus London last year but I love it so much I think you all need to see it again to truly appreciate it.  I like Vampire Bunnies and although they only do to a size 18 on the website, they do custom orders for larger sizes, making it longer and putting straps although they do charge a bit extra for this.  A lot of their designs feature the elastic back I have some mixed feelings about this as although it allows for growing and shrinking, I sometimes think it can flatten my boobies a bit in the sweetheart styles.

I teamed this with my trusty H by Henry Holland Denim Jacket from last year and my Red Mel shoes from a little shop in London.  I love these cos there Red and they have bows!

I also gave my wonderful Blackheart Creatives " Your the one for me Fattie."  Necklace a outing cos I'm the kind of girl who wants a cupcake with her Junkfood.

And as I am trying to grow the pixie out into a bob and it is getting longer (But not that long as you can see) I added a bow headband from Janine Basil to round it all off.  These are amazing and glittery and available in loads of colours too!

My lipstick is a Bourjois is a Rouge Edition Velvet in Ole Flamingo and I am impressed as this is after eating a Croque Monsieur and drinking a cup of tea at Deal's newest Cafe,  Hope and Lane.

Sorry I should have taken a pic whilst it wasn't half eaten but I was starving!!!  I quite liked the place there was big selection of teas and coffees and a small variety of pastries and snacks to go with this but no bigger hot snacks so probably won't become a local favourite for me, that said the Croque was good but would have liked a bigger cheese to white sauce ratio.

Finally a gratuitous shot of the church that was the backdrop for the pictures as I love Deal and there is many pretty buildings in my little town.

Shop my look:

Dress - Vampire Bunnies

Shoes - Mel (similar here as old)

Denim Jacket - H by Henry Holland at Debenhams (similar here)

Necklace - Blackheart Creatives

Headband - Janine Basil

This Fat Girl don't care!

I try not to read the Daily Mail like chips dipped in butter it's just not good for you, with it's incessant too fat, too thin, I'm perfect, I'm not, today we love them tomorrow we hate them sidebar of shame.  This paper is most read paper for women yet it promotes body hatred in a major way and has become a bit like the Katie Hopkins of the newspaper world

In today's gem the headline  screams: Why are today's young women so unashamed about being so fat? and the "horrified" Linda Kelsey who I presume has written this delightful piece to stop her from gouging her own eyes out from the horrendous site of young WOMEN (I note she doesn't seem to mention the legions of less than slender men who unveil come summer) who are going about their business delightfully comfortable, having fun and wearing what the fuck they like!

In her article which is full of fat shaming and full of concern for fat people's health, whilst never mentioning there are plenty of thin people who are unhealthy.  She says things like: "lumpen individuals", "super sausage of overhanging belly" and "an extra bottom hanging bellow" but what seems to upset her is that these women don't seem to give a damn and dare be fat, eat a bag of crisps in public and unlike Ms Kelsey don't cut back the minute that their jeans get tight.

The whole piece screams a bit of the I am paid to be controversial and in some ways I don't really want to give it any more thought than it deserves which is to be tomorrows chip papers, but I worry that it reinforces that all fat people are lazy and unhealthy and yes some are but then so are some thin people.

As a fat woman I am trying to be healthier but is it to lose weight no not really it is so I feel good in my mind, so I am properly fed and that my nearly 40 year old engine keeps ticking over, and no I am not super confident but I have worked to know I can wear body con and look good and I am working on my confidence to wear a bikini because who doesn't want to feel the sun on their tum and generally I am working on being the most confident, healthy version of me I can be who doesn't deny herself for 3 weeks then binge on chocolate inhaling it without tasting it then hating myself and feeling like a failure.

So my final answer to this piece is a picture of the beautiful, voluptuous and fat Tess Munster rocking it in a bikini as beautifully as anyone else without an once of fuck given and my ambition is to rock a bikini as well as her one day and if it horrifies Lesley Kelsey all the freakin better.